In the first part of our blog series about Josef Kirschner’s book *”The Art of Being Selfish: The Adventure of Living Happily, Even If Others Don’t Like It”*, we explore the central theme of the book: “healthy selfishness.” The term “selfish” often carries a negative connotation in our society. A selfish person is quickly labeled as self-centered or inconsiderate. However, Kirschner aims to challenge these prejudices and presents a form of selfishness that is not destructive but rather healthy and necessary.

Kirschner argues that many people often put their own well-being behind the expectations and desires of others. This frequently leads to dissatisfaction, frustration, and the feeling of not living the life they want. For him, a healthy level of selfishness means prioritizing one’s own needs and desires without violating the rights and freedoms of others.

Kirschner emphasizes that the art of selfishness has nothing to do with inconsideration but rather with a conscious approach to one’s own desires and goals. Many of us tend to forget ourselves because we are constantly trying to please others—be it parents, partners, bosses, or societal expectations. Kirschner calls for breaking free from these expectations and taking control of one’s own life. Only those who value themselves can truly give to others.

A central aspect of healthy selfishness is self-responsibility. Kirschner explains that we cannot rely on others to make us happy. Instead, we should learn to be enough for ourselves and find happiness within. This doesn’t mean living in isolation or withdrawing from others but having the courage to clearly define and stand up for one’s own needs—even if it doesn’t always gain approval.

Kirschner describes the “selfish person” as an adventurer who is willing to explore new paths and does not shy away from conflicts. They are someone who dares to be different and views life as an adventure in which they play the leading role. This adventurous spirit also requires the willingness to break free from external constraints and muster the courage to stand up for oneself.

Many people fear appearing selfish because they worry about being rejected or criticized. However, Kirschner makes it clear that it’s impossible to meet everyone’s expectations. Instead, we should focus on improving our own satisfaction and quality of life, as this is the only way to lead a fulfilling life in the long term.

In the next post, we will delve deeper into how to find the balance between healthy selfishness and social responsibility. While it is essential to care for oneself, we live in a community where consideration and cooperation also play a significant role.

In the second part of this series, we will address how to balance healthy selfishness with responsibility toward others. Stay tuned!