Your progress is my joy!

Your progress is my joy!

Winn Chelini | CHW-Coaching

Your companion on the journey through high sensitivity, burnout, and the challenges of being a man

Asking questions is the key to growth and change – both in life and in coaching. Without questions, we remain trapped in our familiar routines, stuck in our patterns of thinking, and miss opportunities for further development. By deliberately questioning our beliefs, behaviors, and goals, we can gain new perspectives and deeper insights into our own potential.

Your progress is my joy!

Winn Chelini | CHW-Coaching

Your companion on the journey through high sensitivity, burnout, and the challenges of being a man

Asking questions is the key to growth and change – both in life and in coaching. Without questions, we remain trapped in our familiar routines, stuck in our patterns of thinking, and miss opportunities for further development. By deliberately questioning our beliefs, behaviors, and goals, we can gain new perspectives and deeper insights into our own potential.

CHWCoaching | Winn Chelini

Change

Honesty

Will

My name is Winn Chelini, and I am a Life Coach with a diverse professional background. After earning my Bachelor of Science in Mechanical Engineering from UAS Zurich, I worked for many years as a Senior IT Engineer Team Leader and Solution Architect in the aerospace sector. During this time, I led complex large-scale projects and conducted numerous training sessions in the IT field.

Despite all my professional successes, I eventually felt a growing inner dissatisfaction. My values and needs no longer aligned with my environment, which ultimately led to burnout. This crisis forced me to pause and deeply question myself. In this process, I discovered my high sensitivity—an aspect of myself that I had not previously recognized or understood.

It was challenging at first to acknowledge and then accept this sensitivity. But over time, I realized that my ability to perceive the world more intensely is not just a burden but also a great strength. This inner work helped me to harness my sensitivity as a resource and guide my life in a new, more fulfilling direction.

Today, this experience inspires me to help others. As a coach, I support you in recognizing your own internal patterns, managing stress, and achieving your personal goals. I will accompany you on your journey to discover your strengths and live a life aligned with your values and abilities.

Why with CHW-Coaching | Winn Chelini?

Your partner for mindfulness and stress management

As someone who has personally overcome burnout, I know exactly how it feels to reach a point where everything seems overwhelming. In such moments, you long for someone who listens and is simply there for you. That’s what I offer you—an open ear, understanding, and support.

Your companion when therapy is still out of reach

I know from my own experience how difficult it can be to wait for a therapy spot. During this time, many thoughts and questions often swirl around in your mind—things you’d like to talk about with someone. As a life coach, I can stand by your side during this phase. I offer you a valuable interim solution until you receive professional help and accompany you along the way. It’s important to emphasize: I don’t replace therapy, but I provide a meaningful bridge. Together, we’ll work on relieving stress, recognizing internal patterns, and creating space for new energy.

Highly sensitive and empathetic – I understand your world

As a highly sensitive person, I know how deeply emotions can run and how strongly they can impact our well-being. I help you better understand and manage these emotions. My empathy and authenticity make me the ideal partner and peer to accompany you on your journey.

CHW-Coaching – For authentic and empathetic support

If you are looking for an empathetic, authentic coach who not only listens but also truly understands what you’re going through, then I am the right companion for you. Together, we will work on helping you regain your strength and emerge stronger from your situation.

Tailored Coaching

Every person is unique – your coaching should be too. I create a customized plan for you, tailored to guide you on your personal path forward.

Proven Methods

Rely on proven, well-established coaching methods, grounded in experience and insights, to achieve lasting change and genuine progress in your life.

Valuable Exchange

My coaching is based on a trusting exchange, with your goals at the center. Together, we will find the best ways to foster your personal growth.

Men and Emotions: strength through conscious emotionality

In our society, the image of the strong man who rarely shows emotions and always stays in control still persists. However, this stereotypical ideal often acts as a barrier to authentic, healthy self-awareness. The notion that true strength equates to being emotionless prevents men from embracing an essential part of their personality. It’s commonly believed that women want a “tough” man who never doubts or cries. Yet, in reality, it’s far more valuable when a man can be aware of his emotions and keep them in balance.

Showing emotions is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, the ability to allow emotions while maintaining control reflects emotional intelligence and strong self-discipline. This doesn’t mean breaking down over every little thing or becoming overwhelmed. Rather, it’s about handling emotions responsibly, so they don’t overwhelm others like an uncontrolled eruption.

Strong men understand that true strength lies in understanding their feelings and expressing them in a way that fosters clarity and connection. By reflecting on and regulating their emotions, men can build deep relationships while maintaining inner peace and self-respect. Let’s show that emotions don’t need to be suppressed—instead, a conscious approach to them paves the way to genuine strength and authentic connections.

If you need support in this, I’m here to assist as a life coach. As someone who lives with high sensitivity and has learned to use it as a strength, I understand the challenges and opportunities that come with consciously engaging with emotions. Together, we can develop strategies to help you experience your feelings mindfully and handle them with confidence.

Benefits when men talk about emotions

Sharing and processing emotions brings numerous positive effects for our well-being and relationships. Here are some benefits you can experience when you share your feelings:

  1. Improved Mental Health
    By expressing our emotions, we relieve stress and create space for inner clarity. Studies show that naming emotions reduces activity in the brain areas responsible for anxiety and stress, helping us face challenges with a clearer mind.
  2. Stronger Relationships
    Talking about emotions fosters trust and understanding in our relationships. When we openly discuss our feelings, we establish a foundation for deeper connections and honest interactions.
  3. Physical Health
    Addressing emotions positively impacts physical health. Reducing stress through sharing feelings is important for stable cardiovascular health and lowers the risk of stress-related conditions like high blood pressure.
  4. Greater Self-Reflection and Self-Control
    Conversations about our emotions help us understand our patterns and reactions better. This process enhances the ability to respond consciously to stressful situations and improves self-regulation.
  5. Increased Well-Being and Life Satisfaction
    People who express their emotions often feel happier and more content. A mindful approach to emotions supports personal growth and promotes a more fulfilling and authentic life.

Talking about emotions is not a sign of weakness—it’s an important step toward inner strength and a healthier, happier life.

Do you feel addressed?

Have you wondered how to manage your emotions better? Do you want to learn to understand yourself more deeply and regulate your emotions more consciously? If you’re ready to take this path and seek support, reach out to me. Together, we’ll find your way to greater inner clarity and emotional balance.

Are you in a relationship with a ‘strong’ man who doesn’t show emotions?

Many women know the challenge: they’re in a relationship with a man who appears strong on the outside but doesn’t openly show his emotions. Perhaps he rarely talks about his inner struggles or avoids allowing himself to feel deeply. This behavior can lead a partner to feel emotionally distant or misunderstood, even though the man has good intentions.

Men often grow up with societal pressure to be strong and unwavering. They’re taught that they shouldn’t show their feelings to be perceived as “manly.” However, these expectations often result in them suppressing or avoiding their emotions—something that can be burdensome not only for the man himself but also for the relationship.

If your partner is among those who rarely speak about their feelings, it can make deep emotional connections challenging. It’s important to understand that men aren’t intentionally distant but often haven’t learned how to express their emotions openly and without shame.

The path to greater emotional closeness begins with small steps. Having a conversation about it—without blame, but with understanding—can be helpful. A man who is emotionally available can foster deeper, more fulfilling relationships and, at the same time, find his inner balance.

To men: Do these words resonate with you? Are you someone who often keeps his feelings to himself, perhaps out of fear of appearing weak? True strength lies in facing your emotions and openly sharing them. It takes courage to take that first step, but it’s this very courage that leads to greater inner strength and emotional freedom.

If you’re ready to work on this and want to talk man to man—without clichés or empty phrases—I’m here for you. It’s about developing genuine emotional strength and gaining a better understanding of yourself. Together, we can find a path that brings you and your relationship to a deeper emotional level.

What is high sensitivity?

The concept of high sensitivity originates from the American psychotherapist Elaine N. Aron. In 1997, she first introduced the term “Highly Sensitive Person” (HSP) and researched the sensitivity of processing stimuli. High sensitivity describes a personality trait in which individuals perceive and process their environment more intensely than others. They react more strongly to external stimuli like sounds, smells, light, but also to emotional and interpersonal impressions. This heightened sensitivity is not to be seen as a weakness, but as a special ability that occurs in about 15-20% of people.

Highly sensitive individuals have a keen sense for details and nuances in their surroundings. They often notice things that others may miss, such as subtle changes in a person’s tone of voice or the atmosphere in a room. This heightened awareness is often accompanied by deep empathy, enabling highly sensitive people to intuitively understand the feelings and needs of others.

However, the intensity of these impressions can also be challenging. Highly sensitive people tend to become overstimulated more quickly because they process so much information simultaneously. This can lead to exhaustion or stress, particularly in hectic or noisy environments. As a result, many highly sensitive people require more time for recovery and often retreat to quiet, familiar spaces.

It is important to view high sensitivity as a strength that—when consciously embraced and integrated—can become a valuable resource in everyday life. Highly sensitive individuals contribute valuable perspectives to their relationships, work, and lives through their empathy, creativity, and deep reflective abilities.

If you recognize yourself in this description, you should not dismiss yourself as “too sensitive.” Instead, give space to your needs for peace, mindfulness, and balance. High sensitivity can become a guide to better understanding yourself and living in harmony with your true nature.

Characteristics of high sensitivity

The traits of high sensitivity can manifest differently in each person. Here are some of the most common characteristics:

  • Rich imagination and complex thought processes: Highly sensitive people often have a vivid inner world full of thoughts, dreams, and creative ideas.
  • Strong inner awareness: They are very attuned to their own physical and emotional states.
  • Detailed perception of the environment: Highly sensitive individuals notice even the smallest changes in their surroundings, such as sounds, smells, or moods.
  • Difficulty managing stress and pressure: They can easily feel overwhelmed when external demands become too great.
  • High enthusiasm: They quickly become passionate about new ideas, people, or projects.
  • Strong sense of personal responsibility and desire for independence: Many highly sensitive people prefer to handle tasks independently and at their own pace.
  • Good empathy and strong understanding of others: They can easily put themselves in other people’s shoes and empathize with their feelings.
  • Strong sense of justice: Injustice is often felt particularly intensely by highly sensitive individuals.
  • Detailed self-reflection: They spend a lot of time reflecting on their own behavior and emotions, leading to deep self-awareness.
  • Difficulty with rigid structures: Highly sensitive people often struggle with strict rules and regulations that allow little flexibility.
  • Perfectionism: They have a desire to do everything as perfectly as possible, which can sometimes add extra pressure.
  • Intense experience of art and music: Highly sensitive people are often deeply moved by art, music, or other forms of creative expression.
  • Need for harmony: They seek a peaceful and balanced environment.
  • Strong susceptibility to the mood of others: They are particularly receptive to the emotions of others and are easily influenced by them.

The four categories of high sensitivity:

 

The characteristics of high sensitivity can be divided into four categories, each covering different aspects of perception and experience:

  1. Sensory traits: Highly sensitive people perceive external stimuli such as sounds, light, or smells very intensely. A specific scent, the ticking of a clock, or an uncomfortable scratchy sweater can distract or disturb them significantly. They also tend to be more aware of internal signals, such as a nervous heartbeat or a queasy feeling in the stomach.

  2. Cognitive traits: Highly sensitive individuals have a strong need to understand things in depth. They often think intensely about various topics, analyze situations in detail, and sometimes tend to overthink or ruminate.

  3. Emotional traits: The emotions of highly sensitive people are often very deep and intense. They experience feelings in a particularly strong way and are highly attuned to the moods and emotions of others. This empathetic ability can sometimes go so far that they have difficulty distinguishing their own emotions from those of others.

  4. Overarousal: Due to the multitude of stimuli they process, highly sensitive people often feel quickly overstimulated. This can lead to stress, inner restlessness, and exhaustion. The constant flood of impressions makes it difficult for them to relax, leading to fatigue and a need for retreat.

Are you highly sensitive?

Have you ever wondered if you are highly sensitive? Do you perceive things more intensely, often feel exhausted more quickly, or overwhelmed by the hustle and bustle of everyday life? Then high sensitivity might play a role in your life.

High Sensitivity Test (HSP Test)

This test gives you an initial assessment of whether you are highly sensitive. The result is divided into three categories: “not highly sensitive,” “partially highly sensitive,” and “highly sensitive.”

Take the opportunity to learn more about yourself and discover how to handle your high sensitivity more consciously and with greater strength.

Are you a Scanner Personality? – What it means and how to find out

You may have heard the term “Scanner Personality” before but aren’t entirely sure what it means. Scanner types are people with a wide range of interests and a deep need to constantly learn and discover new things. But how do you know if you belong to this unique personality type? And what does it really mean to be a Scanner? Let’s take a closer look at this concept.

What is a Scanner Personality?

A Scanner Personality, a term coined by author Barbara Sher, describes people who are passionate about a wide range of topics and often struggle to focus on just one area of interest. Scanners jump from one project or subject to another, driven by their curiosity to learn and experience new things.

In contrast to people who specialize in a specific field (referred to as “Divers”), Scanners prefer to explore the breadth of the world. They don’t want to dive deeply into just one subject but rather explore as many different areas as possible. As a result, they are often described as versatile, creative, and eager to learn—though sometimes also seen as “inconsistent” or “flighty.”

Characteristics of a Scanner Personality

Scanner personalities are characterized by some typical traits:

  1. Versatile Interests: Scanner types often feel the need to explore many different areas. They can be passionate about art, science, technology, psychology, and much more—often all at the same time.
  2. Quick Boredom: Once they know a topic or project well enough, scanners often lose interest and seek a new challenge.
  3. Difficulty with Long-term Focus: Since they are constantly fascinated by new ideas and projects, it is hard for them to stick with one subject for long. They feel restricted if they have to commit to just one thing.
  4. Fast Learning: Scanners can quickly dive into new topics, making them exceptional generalists. They are often able to build solid foundational knowledge in many areas without deeply specializing in one.
  5. Creativity and Innovation: By combining knowledge from different fields, scanners can develop innovative solutions that others may not see.

Are you a scanner type?

If you’re wondering whether you might be a scanner type, it could help to answer the following questions:

  • Do you have many different interests and quickly get excited about new ideas or projects?
  • Do you often lose interest in a subject once you feel you’ve learned enough about it?
  • Do you love learning new things but find it hard to focus on just one area?
  • Do you often have multiple projects going on at the same time and feel fulfilled by the variety of your interests?

If you answered “yes” to most of these questions, it’s quite possible that you are a scanner. The important thing to remember is that there’s no “right” or “wrong” here—scanner types have their own unique strengths and challenges.

Challenges of being a scanner

Scanner types often face the challenge of navigating a world that frequently rewards specialization and focus. They may feel out of place because they don’t want to or can’t commit to just one thing. This can lead to self-doubt or fear of being perceived as “unreliable.”

Many scanners feel pressured to “choose” something specific, which can be frustrating. However, the truth is that scanner personalities have a special gift: they can connect different topics and develop creative solutions by combining knowledge from various fields.

Summary

Being a scanner means having an insatiable need for variety, new experiences, and a wide range of knowledge. In a world that often promotes specialization and focus, it can be challenging to navigate as a scanner personality. However, if you learn to recognize your versatility as a strength, you can unlock your potential and lead a fulfilling, creative life.

If you’d like to learn more or seek support in better integrating your skills and interests into your life, feel free to sign up for a free initial consultation. As a life coach, I would be happy to help you find your path and make the most of your many talents.